Today is the day that you step back and put things in perspective. Sometimes, we never have the chance to re-evaluate where we are at, until we realize we are not where we want to be. I like to ask people what they would do if they could do anything and never have to worry about how they were going to get by, or pay the bills. Some people get so excited, while others its a reminder of how off track they really are with achieving their dreams. Some people don’t even have dreams, or goals and I’d say this, how can you go anywhere if you don’t know where you are going?. Regardless, of where you are at in life, you can always get back on track…that is, if you want it bad enough. The truth is not whether we want to accomplish our dreams, but that we believe it is too late, or that we don’t have what it takes to do it. In many cases, we actually stack the odds against ourselves.
Whatever you believe you can obtain, you can…a definite of purpose is all you need. Does it take courage? Absolutely. Is there some risk involved? Most certainly. The word that comes to mind is legacy. How do you want to be remembered. There was an article written that outlined a pretty intense statistic. Let me share it with you. On average, less than 10 people will actually cry at your funeral. Get this…if it is raining outside about 50% of the people will not show up at your burial. My point is, it’s time to stop caring what people think you can do. The only thing that matters is what you think you can do. If you believe it to be true, it is…if you believe you can’t your right.
I believe that one of the most powerful qualities in any person is their personal belief in who they are and what they do. Those who can stand strong to their word will go very far. This also accounts for what you do when others are not watching. A good mentor of mine, Mr. Eric Thomas said that when it comes down to it, what you have left at the end of the day is your character. Money can be made back, trust in your character is not always refundable. When it comes to belief, if your are willing to do whatever it takes to be successful at something, that will take you far. There is much more to it. Someone who quits in sports, business, relationships, is quitting on themselves. Be true to your word. If you say you are going to do something, do it. Saying one thing and doing another is bound to lead you away from true success.
Have you ever heard the saying that, “Eagles don’t swim with ducks”? There is a ton of merit to this saying. Those who you hang around are bound to influence you. You are who you hang out with. If the people around you are negative and downplaying life, it will rub off on you. Personally, I make it a habit to hang around positive, uplifting people. I used to think that I could do this, but I found that when I stay in the same environment, I get the results. I’m not saying that you should completely abandon those you care about, but the decision to hang around them less may be supportive to where you want to go.
I truly have a passion for helping people. I make it a habit to help others, but others must want to help themselves first. Changes is simple. You just decide that you have had enough, that where you are is not where you want to be, that you want more out of life…I would tell you to go out and take it. If you are getting the same results in life, you must do something different. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results. If you want something different in life and are not willing to change, I hate to break it to you, but you will definitely have a challenging time getting there. Being around like-minded is hands down the way to success. Let’s say you wanted to be a successful hockey player (I’m biased because I have been playing hockey my entire life), if you wanted to be the best would you hang around those who were below your skill level? You can, but is it supportive to your growth as a player? I know it feels great to be the best player on the ice, but if you are always the best player on the ice, there is less incentive to better yourself. The truth is that growth comes from putting ourself into uncomfortable environments. If you want to be the best you can, play, learn and watch those who are where you want to be. When it comes to playing hockey, I make an effort to play against the best on the ice because that is how I get better.
The last thing I want to talk about is that of being open-minded. Think of it this way, the mind is like a parachute, it only works when it is open. Now you may be asking, what does this mean? What does that have to do with anything? It has everything to with getting to where you want to go. We have been taught to believe that we have to wait till we are 65 to retire (it’s actually probably higher than that). I’ll be the first to tell you that I love what I do and I plan on working and investing in others for the rest of my life, but the industrial way of thinking is over. Why wait till you are 65 to retire? If you think about it, once you retire, you expire. My point is that it’s important to have an open mind and be willing to learn new things and engage in new opportunities. If you are not doing what you love, it may be time to take a second look at things. Life is meant to be enjoyed and if you are close-minded, I can bet that you have turned away many new exciting opportunities in life without even knowing it. Be open to do new things, to meet new people and more importantly, a new way of life. Take advantage of every opportunity to better yourself and above all else, make it a habit to help as many people as you can. For me, it’s all about helping others. I’ll leave you with a great quote from an amazing mentor, Zig Ziglar, “If you help enough people get what they want, you will get everything you want”. Until next time, we’ll talk to you later. Be grateful for everything you have and more importantly, have fun.