How core values help us do the right thing

Doing the right thing is just that…the right thing to do, but that doesn’t mean that we won’t be tempted, or enticed to sway from our values each day. Doing the right thing stems from having a good set of core values. For example, if “integrity” is a core value of yours, then you are saying that no matter what, “I value this over anything that may come by and try to take me off course.” I’m not saying you won’t be tempted, cause you inevitably will, but your core values, in this case integrity, will help you better vet your decisions and life choices. Even if you are “wanting” to do something different, integrity will hold you accountable to yourself. I say “want” because what we want to do, and the right thing to do, can be different to varying degrees. It is only when go against our core values that we feel pain. That pain can come in the form of multiple of emotions.

Needless to say, doing the right thing can be directly correlated with the strength of our core values. We may value integrity, but only our actions will prove whether that’s true, or not. Each day we make an array of decisions, but only when we have strong core values can we do what’s right, even if it’s not in our favor.


A different angle on learning

Have you ever considered what you learn from the unapparent, hidden, and unspoken? While our senses pick up one thing, there is a whole other thing happening that we often miss. It’s not what the person may say, but what they don’t. It’s not what looks apparent that is the problem, but what is not readily apparent. Many things happen without us noticing, but they are still happening. It’s not because they are absent, but that our focus is on what is the loudest.

Learning is two parts: what you actually read, witness, experience, etc., but also what you don’t read, see, or partake in. Being able to learn from both will play a major role your growth as an individual. Didn’t see the results you want? Don’t look at the results, look at the process, habits and routines that were not implemented. It’s not what you did to get to where you’re at, but what you didn’t do. Change your focus. Once you look at learning from these two different perspectives, you will notice changes in your level of awareness that can only be obtained by focusing on what is unseen, hidden, and quiet.


Always ensure you are not doing this before you make a decision

While making decisions, it’s important not to get a step ahead of yourself in the process. When we do this, we find ourselves in a sinking ship of assumptions that do us no good. In fact, they often can cause more harm than good.

During these moments, the best thing you can do is be more patient, but when time is of the essence, this is a lot harder, because we want to get things done; we want to solve our challenges as quickly as possible. Remember though, when it comes to decision making, efficiency is more important that effectiveness. Here’s why.

When we are effective, we can find ourselves making many decisions quickly, but often at the cost of having to trace back our steps because we didn’t think things through. Now this isn’t always the case. There are many decisions we must make and then learn along the way. The example that notably sticks out, is the decision of entrepreneurship. Many are drawn to the idea of owning their own business and working for themselves, but unfortunately, they never take action. This is something that must end. Not just this example specifically, although it is very true, but to procrastination itself. You will never know everything beforehand, just go.

With efficiency however, we are more focused on making decisions with clarity and, if need be, take more time to ensure we are not making any assumptions, or moving forward with the incorrect information. Efficiency is about going through the decision process the right way, not just making them to get things done.

As a final thought, focus on making decisions efficiently. Have the courage to take your time during the process. Making assumptions is a costly expense to your bottom line.

Until next time,


Everything is a reflection of self

Everything is a reflection of self. Nothing is happening to us, only because of us.

When we reach this level of awareness, we understand that where we are at in life, where we’ve been, and where we are going is our responsibility. Should we accept this, life is that much more enjoyable. We can become more responsive and emotionally level, as opposed to reactive and out of control. Yes, life will happen, and yes, most things are out of our control, but we will always have a choice on the direction our life goes when we hit that critical moment. That critical moment can lead us to happiness, or drive us down a road filled with struggle. That critical moment can be the beginning of something new, or the continuance of something filled with blame, complaining and excuses. That critical moment is yours for the taking. What are you going to decide to do? No one else can decide for you.


Dream as if you couldn’t fail

Today everyone, I challenge you to dream as if you couldn’t fail, to dream big. To never, never, never give up on your goals and dreams no matter how many times you get knocked down. To make the commitment to be more, to strive and do something different. To not be average. To not be realistic.To do even when you do not want to do. To stand for what you believe in everyday, even if you are the only one in your corner. To simply do whatever it takes. Impossible

Note that it will not be easy, that life will throw many challenges your way and that you will be tested day in and day out, but do realize that you can do it. It’s your goal to help as many people as you can, to strive and create something bigger than yourself. Embrace failure because it is a good thing. You are only a failure if you quit. Be grateful and love thy neighbor as thyself. Until next time, “Live each day as if it were your last because surely one day, it will be”

This is your time, this is your opportunity…Go take it.

Today is the day that you step back and put things in perspective. Sometimes, we never have the chance to re-evaluate where we are at, until we realize we are not where we want to be. I like to ask people what they would do if they could do anything and never have to worry about how they were going to get by, or pay the bills. Some people get so excited, while others its a reminder of how off track they really are with achieving their dreams. Some people don’t even have dreams, or goals and I’d say this, how can you go anywhere if you don’t know where you are going?. Regardless, of where you are at in life, you can always get back on track…that is, if you want it bad enough. The truth is not whether we want to accomplish our dreams, but that we believe it is too late, or that we don’t have what it takes to do it. In many cases, we actually stack the odds against ourselves.

Whatever you believe you can obtain, you can…a definite of purpose is all you need. Does it take courage? Absolutely. Is there some risk involved? Most certainly. The word that comes to mind is legacy. How do you want to be remembered. There was an article written that outlined a pretty intense statistic. Let me share it with you. On average, less than 10 people will actually cry at your funeral. Get this…if it is raining outside about 50% of the people will not show up at your burial. My point is, it’s time to stop caring what people think you can do. The only thing that matters is what you think you can do. If you believe it to be true, it is…if you believe you can’t your right.

I believe that one of the most powerful qualities in any person is their personal belief in who they are and what they do. Those who can stand strong to their word will go very far. This also accounts for what you do when others are not watching. A good mentor of mine, Mr. Eric Thomas said that when it comes down to it, what you have left at the end of the day is your character. Money can be made back, trust in your character is not always refundable. When it comes to belief, if your are willing to do whatever it takes to be successful at something, that will take you far. There is much more to it. Someone who quits in sports, business, relationships, is quitting on themselves. Be true to your word. If you say you are going to do something, do it. Saying one thing and doing another is bound to lead you away from true success.

Have you ever heard the saying that, “Eagles don’t swim with ducks”? There is a ton of merit to this saying. Those who you hang around are bound to influence you. You are who you hang out with. If the people around you are negative and downplaying life, it will rub off on you. Personally, I make it a habit to hang around positive, uplifting people. I used to think that I could do this, but I found that when I stay in the same environment, I get the results. I’m not saying that you should completely abandon those you care about, but the decision to hang around them less may be supportive to where you want to go.

I truly have a passion for helping people. I make it a habit to help others, but others must want to help themselves first. Changes is simple. You just decide that you have had enough, that where you are is not where you want to be, that you want more out of life…I would tell you to go out and take it. If you are getting the same results in life, you must do something different. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results. If you want something different in life and are not willing to change, I hate to break it to you, but you will definitely have a challenging time getting there. Being around like-minded is hands down the way to success. Let’s say you wanted to be a successful hockey player (I’m biased because I have been playing hockey my entire life), if you wanted to be the best would you hang around those who were below your skill level? You can, but is it supportive to your growth as a player? I know it feels great to be the best player on the ice, but if you are always the best player on the ice, there is less incentive to better yourself. The truth is that growth comes from putting ourself into uncomfortable environments. If you want to be the best you can, play, learn and watch those who are where you want to be. When it comes to playing hockey, I make an effort to play against the best on the ice because that is how I get better.

The last thing I want to talk about is that of being open-minded. Think of it this way, the mind is like a parachute, it only works when it is open. Now you may be asking, what does this mean? What does that have to do with anything? It has everything to with getting to where you want to go. We have been taught to believe that we have to wait till we are 65 to retire (it’s actually probably higher than that). I’ll be the first to tell you that I love what I do and I plan on working and investing in others for the rest of my life, but the industrial way of thinking is over. Why wait till you are 65 to retire? If you think about it, once you retire, you expire. My point is that it’s important to have an open mind and be willing to learn new things and engage in new opportunities. If you are not doing what you love, it may be time to take a second look at things. Life is meant to be enjoyed and if you are close-minded, I can bet that you have turned away many new exciting opportunities in life without even knowing it. Be open to do new things, to meet new people and more importantly, a new way of life. Take advantage of every opportunity to better yourself and above all else, make it a habit to help as many people as you can. For me, it’s all about helping others. I’ll leave you with a great quote from an amazing mentor, Zig Ziglar, “If you help enough people get what they want, you will get everything you want”. Until next time, we’ll talk to you later. Be grateful for everything you have and more importantly, have fun.